Tag: privacy

Minimalism- Be more with Less

Understanding the word “minimalism” only depends on how you apply this to your life. I, myself have this unique practice of minimalism according to my preference since I do have a lot of personal belongings at home like women stuff and I do buy things always in a pair in case I ran out of the other one.

I believe that if you are happy with your 1000 personal stuff and belongings and it makes your life better and served the purpose, then no need to get rid of them. It’s actually just a matter if you are no longer happy with these clutters and stress and consumerism, then you have to break free and get rid of the valueless stuff.

My Online Life: 

I practice minimalism in a way that I do not add random friends in any of my other social media like FB  and only those I personally know or at least having interaction with.

I don’t follow many people on IG, doesn’t even reached 100 (seriously) since I could always use the search tool if I want to check something or anyone. I do even remove some of my posts and photos whenever I get the feeling it’s way too much and crowded.

I tend to unfollow people on FB (but won’t remove them from my friends list) if they are super active I always find them on top of my newsfeed for no reason at all, (but hey, let me just remind you that I have nothing against that since it’s their prerogative but if their visibility started to annoy me, then I will simply unfollow, bitching inside, some people deserved to be unfollowed, haha), kidding.

My Real Life:

Getting rid of valueless stuff. I do de-cluttering on a regular basis to get rid of the things I don’t want anymore and donating these items on the donation boxes found everywhere on the streets here like clothes, shoes, bags that is still good and reusable.

I don’t buy things on impulse, not unless I can’t live without it, haha. I always think before I buy.

Be happy. Be content in everything you’ve got not to mention save and invest. This will definitely help you in the future.

Detaching my Personal life to my career life. Yeah, that may sound odd but it helps a lot. I go to work mainly with a purpose to work only. It may sound rude but this is the best way not to drag yourself with people who don’t have anything to do with your real life.

Having one partner in life, immediate family, few real good friends. What else do you need? 

This lifestyle requires a lot of responsibility and commitment. But with this, I get the privacy and the freedom I’ve always wanted in life.

Remember, fewer people, less stress, fewer things, more appreciation, simplified life, happier life!

There you go my simple ways of practicing Minimalism at it’s best. You may give it a try.

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Reasons to Keep your Private Life, PRIVATE

Well, seriously, a private life is a happy life. With Modern technology fast approaching these days, and with the news spreads quickly through the internet, for the private and public individual, keeping a private life is a little bit difficult more than the previous days. 

Rather, should I say, it’s quite flattering that everyone has genuine interests to know each other’s whereabouts, what we do, what we work, what we share,  what is our recent relationship, how do we live and a lot more personal stuff?

More so, we add fuel to these ourselves by also sharing information about our personal stuff over the social media.

To be honest, it isn’t bad to share a few of our selected issues in social media, this is also one good way for everyone to know that we are still existing.

Not to mention that this is one of the easy ways to keep in touch with our family and long-lost friends.

But then, over-doing it by keeping your  daily life open in the public is 100% “MUST NOT.”

It’s still better to keep our life away from the limelight. That way, we will also minimize third-party to butt-in our personal struggles.

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Reasons why?

1. A private life is a happy life- In the sense that we do not have to engage ourselves with all the unnecessary dramas, chaos, and gossips that has nothing to do with our lives or to people/things that are none of our business. Moreover,  our daily life would not be totally exposed to everyone and be the target of anyone’s gossip.

2. We do not keep our life open for everyone to see. To live in private. Love in private. Keep everything we do in private. Then we could also manage our losses in private and rebuild ourselves in private.

3. Nothing good will ever come out by sharing our sentiments in public. Sharing our recent heartbreak, swearings, bad-mouthing, hatreds will only lose our dignity. We are on the losing end,  the fact that we won’t be able to get any sincere sympathy from random people, rather, we would only give people them the opportunity to dig in and add salt to our injury.

How we do it?

1. Be boring- Definitely. If you don’t want people to know every little detail about you, BORE THEM TO DEATH. Do not provide information every single thing you do and will do in your life. Be a mystery. 

A person who retains a sense of mystery doesn’t engage in gossip, quietly progresses & does their thing without the need for an audience.

2. Oversharing –  Cmon, some people do this to gather some attention. –> this is why they labeled it as “Narcissist”–  a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. They want to be the center of attraction.

Sometimes I wonder why some people love to post everything on social media, from their injured toe to the faces inside the casket of their family who recently passed away, including their current thoughts, what to buy, what to eat, show off every little thing, talk about people, and a lot more non sense that shouldn’t be posted anyway?

3. We have to limit what we share- As we cannot totally ban ourselves from social media and the internet, we could at least limit what we share and save some private stuff to yourself.

I myself don’t consider myself unplugged from the social media. I consider myself private, but I do share some of my personal stuff in my own way.

It ’s only about setting your boundaries to a certain level.

Finding your way of sharing without having to feel like you are totally outcasted.

4. Keep a low key Life- By keeping a low key life and limiting information about ourselves, we also minimize other people the power to define who we are. We have to stop treating people like we owe them any explanations or details of what’s the latest issue in our life.

Sometimes we post things with the intention to spread our sentiments in order to reach our target.

5. Being confidential or off-the-record isn’t bad. It’s not because all your accomplishments are not posted on social media means it’s nothing. 

It’s not a sign of unhappiness. It’s just a sign of confidence and REAL contentment.